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Does Lady Gaga’s “Born This Way” Send the Right Message?

Tuesday, November 8th, 2011

Upon its release, Lady Gaga’s dance hit “Born This Way” instantly became a brazen vindication of homosexuality’s biological basis. The LGBTQ community revelled in the message that homosexuality was immutable and therefore deserved society’s approval. The problem, though, is that the song’s message is founded on the principles of biological determinism, a philosophy which reinforces the social inequities that the LGBTQ community and other minorities are struggling to eliminate. In other words, the song’s message relies on a socially damaging cop-out about human nature. Perhaps what we need to do is take a fresh approach on gay and lesbian apologetics by critically examining the consequences of biological determinist thinking for oppressed groups.

Essentially, biological determinism states that people are born with certain immutable biological characteristics, and that these characteristics help explain the social inequities we see in society. By contrast, social determinism (a seemingly non-canonical term) posits that the behavior of the individual is determined by social mores and institutions. Since they are both forms of determinism, biological and social determinism are the opposite of free will, a philosophy which states that human beings ultimately possess agency and volition over their actions. Finally, compatibilism states that free will and determinism are not incompatible, and that both simultaneously influence the behavior of the individual. And then there is epigenetics, which is relevant but lies outside the scope of this article.

One might think that, ostensibly, biological determinism would serve gays and lesbians, because it transfers responsibility for homosexual behavior from the person to the person’s biology, thereby exonerating that person of any claims of moral turpitude. According to this view, if homosexuality is biologically predetermined, gays and lesbians are not sinning against God, because they are blameless. A person’s sexual and romantic affection for members of the same sex is driven by the neurochemistry of his or her brain (which happens to be created by God, as Christians themselves would argue), and it is unfair to blame a person for the neurobiological processes they cannot control, hence it is unfair to blame a person for his or her same-sex affection. In short, the idea is, “You can’t blame a person for something they can’t control.”

It seems like a triumphant final “hurrah” in defense of homosexuality, but is it really a good philosophy for human beings in general? Maybe not so much.

Using biological determinism as an excuse for our behavior might inadvertently hamper efforts at achieving gender equity. The biological determinist model posits that boys are inherently more aggressive, lustful, and dominating than girls, and girls, more passive, emotional, and nurturing than boys, because of some genetically-influenced cocktail of hormones which shaped their brains in the womb. But is this philosophy scientifically sound, and does it serve boys and girls? As Cordelia Fine points out in her book Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society, and Neurosexism Create Difference, scientists do believe that testosterone determines which set of genitals a baby will develop, but it is much less certain how it determines which toys children like to play with, let alone which types of careers they wish to pursue later in life. The neuroscience used to support the hardwired sex differences which result in gender inequity, Fine shows again and again, is methodologically flawed, misinterpreted, or simply nonexistent. If we think about it, we can see the slippery slope of excuses which might be used if we embrace biologically determined sex inequity: for example, when a man rapes a woman, it isn’t really his fault, because he was being controlled by testosterone. In effect, rapists get off the hook because “boys will be boys”. But bio-determinism is dehumanizing for another important reason: empathy is something that defines us as human beings (or as mammals at least), and we need as much of it as we can get, but bio-determinism posits that boys are inherently less empathetic than girls, so, essentially, what it is suggesting is that half of the human race should be crueller than the other half. This is absurd if our greatest goal is to encourage as much empathy as possible. Does the LGBTQ community really want to promote such destructive self-limitation?

Biological determinism could even be used to justify certain racist assumptions. As bio-determinists, we might argue that black people are inherently more violent than white people in order to explain the disproportionately high number of black people in American prisons. We might also invoke bio-determinism to explain the higher mortality rate of black people, and why they need this-or-that medicine (the commercialization of race for the purpose of lining the pockets of drug companies). This racialization of social issues is roundly criticized by Dorothy Parker in her book Fatal Invention: How Science, Politics, and Big Business Re-Create Race in the Twenty-First Century. When we embrace bio-deterministic explanations for racial inequity in health and crime rates, we are automatically enabling such inequity to persist. Clearly it is not beneficial for us, though, so we should probably stop making excuses, show some volition, and pick up the slack, no? For this reason, the LGBTQ community might wish to be cautious about how they use the bio-determinist explanation for homosexuality.

Ironically, the “Born This Way” maxim might not just hurt women and racial minorities–it might actually end up hurting the LGBTQ community, too. By using biological innateness to justify their desires, gays and lesbians are simply giving power to the oppressor, because they are sort of implying that they “can’t help doing something that is wrong.” In other words, they suggest, homosexuality shouldn’t be accepted because it is inherently good; it should be accepted because gay people can’t help being gay. It’s kind of like saying, “congenital heart disease is bad because it kills people, but it should be accepted because it’s biological.” That’s just ludicrous. Of course it shouldn’t be accepted just because it’s biologically-based; it should be eliminated because it kills people. What is taking place here is an “appeal to nature” fallacy, which states that a thing is good because it is natural, and bad because it is unnatural. But a thing is not good because it is natural, or bad because it is unnatural. So, what gays and lesbians should be doing is saying, “Even if homosexuality weren’t natural, that doesn’t make it wrong. It is also your choice to be a Christian, but I don’t discriminate against you because of that.” Thus, to deny power to the oppressor, the LGBTQ community might focus on critiquing the appeal to nature fallacy rather than affirming it.

As we can see, Lady Gaga’s widely adored anthem ostensibly vindicates same-sex desire, but in many ways it actually reinforces damaging social inequities for women and racial minorities. It is even self-sabotaging for the LGBTQ community itself, given how it requires homosexuality to be natural in order to be justifiable. Certainly, the body does play a role in how we behave as human beings, but it does not necessarily control our behavior in every way from birth. Absolute social determinism and absolute biological determinism both seem a little implausible, so perhaps we should consider paying more heed to compatibilism–the philosophy that allows for a complex interaction between the mind, the body, and society. We might even argue that we have more free will, more agency and autonomy, than we give ourselves credit for. Maybe we weren’t strictly “born this way” after all, and maybe there’s a bigger “socio-biological” picture to why we do what we do, but that doesn’t make homosexuality wrong any more than it makes Christianity wrong. Maybe what we should be doing is defending minority sexual identities for their own sake, not for their basis in biology.

Of course, at the end of the day, it just so happens that there is a mounting heap of evidence defending at least the partial innateness of homosexuality, but, alas, it is exceedingly difficult to teach a religious fundamentalist new tricks, isn’t it?

Source:

The Muck of Ages

    Conan O’Brien Ordained by Universal Life Church Monastery

    Friday, October 28th, 2011

    As New York Magazine‘s Vulture blog has just announced, Conan O’Brien, will be celebrating the one-year anniversary of his Late Night TBS talk show, by officiating the same-sex marriage of a longtime staffer.  We’re proud to confirm that Conan is one of the Universal Life Church Monastery’s most recent ordained ministers! Though the date of the wedding ceremony has yet to be released, Conan was ordained with Universal Life Church Monastery on October 21st and will likely be performing the marriage as part of the shows one week stint of episodes in New York City next week.

    The Monastery salutes Conan’s courage to perform a same-sex marriage and to set the example that we are all children of the same universe; gay, straight, black, white, brown, young and old.  The church invites all to become a minister of their own beliefs and speak truth to power during these critical times of change.

      Christian Teens Embracing “Sinful” Sexual Relations

      Tuesday, October 11th, 2011

      While a growing number of American teenagers are leaving church and religion, those who do stay are exhibiting decidedly impious behavior when it comes to sex. A study cited in Relevant magazine indicates that premarital sex rates among evangelical Christian American teenagers fall only slightly behind those of the average American teenager. However, there may be good reason to believe that this trend is perfectly appropriate, and that premarital sex is not a sin.

      The study in question was conducted by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unwanted Pregnancy, an American non-profit organization which provides statistical insight and analysis into teenage and unwanted pregnancy. While the findings might not phase the average Universal Life Church minister, they have wider implications for evangelical Christian youth movements. According to the study, eighty-eight per cent of American teenagers are having premarital or extramarital sex, while eighty per cent of evangelical Christian teenagers are engaging in this type of sexual activity. Meanwhile, though, seventy-six per cent of evangelical Christian teenagers still believe that sex before or outside marriage is immoral.

      Bloggers, journalists, and commentators from all over the media have been offering their two cents’ worth to explain why so many evangelical Christian teenagers have premarital sex. One explanation comes from Nicole Neroulias of Belief Beat. As Neroulias explains, Biblical sexual mores which may have made sense in the past no longer do today, and it would be ridiculous to preserve them just because they are found in a holy book:

      … the Bible and traditional social mores come from a time when puberty and marriage were synonymous, if not even reversed. So “waiting until marriage” was kind of a no-brainer. But now, the average Americans don’t wed until they are over 25. That’s another decade or more of polishing those purity rings — twice their lifetimes, at that point, and during the years when hormones and peer pressure are at their most insistent.

      In other words, what Neroulias is saying, and something we should understand as interfaith wedding officiants, is that in the Bible it made sense to wait until marriage to have sex, because back then a person got married as soon as they were physiologically capable of producing children. The most obvious reason why premarital sex was considered immoral is that an unmarried person was physiologically unable to have sex (at least for reproductive purposes). Nowadays, however, people normally choose to marry long after they reach sexual maturity, so there is no longer a correlation between the two.

      But will all of this finally prove to be the last nail in the coffin for youth abstinence movements? There is some indication that young people’s commitment to abstinence is more or less transitory in nature. In the Relevant article, author Tyler Charles describes movements such as True Love Waits, which encourages teenagers to wear purity rings, sign chastity pledges, and pledge chastity during public ceremonies. (Probably not the type of occasion presided over by the average minister ordained online.) However, many youths in Christian abstinence movements eventually break their pledges. One of these young people, with whom Charles speaks in his article, is “Maria”, who waited to have sex until she was twenty, when she realized almost none of her fellow college students was still a virgin. The problem becomes when evangelical Christian youth movements tell people who remain single long after they reach sexual maturity, “just keep waiting”.

      Perhaps what we should take from the Relevant article is that we should move on from Bronze Age moral codes, because they do not work for us in the present day–if they ever did. And even though more than three quarters of evangelical Christian teenagers say that premarital sex is immoral, even more end up having it, so there is obviously a psychological disconnect between what young people say they want, and what they really want. It might behove us to refrain from telling young people what is right and wrong according to a five thousand year-old book, and to start telling them to think for themselves, while providing them guidance, support, and educational resources along the way.

      As a ULC pastor, what do you think? Should we keep telling young people to wait, or should we teach them sex before marriage is OK, depending on the individual, as long as it is safe?

      Sources:

      Beliefnet

      CNN Belief Blog

      Jewish Journal

      Relevant

        Warren Jeffs and Joseph Smith… alike?

        Friday, August 12th, 2011

        Polygamist Mormon sect leader Warren Jeffs shares some qualities with founder of Mormon faith

        Polygamist and sex offender Warren Jeffs has been convicted of two counts of child rape

        Warren Jeffs, leader of a Mormon sect called the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of the Latter Day Saints (FLDS), was convicted on August 4 of child rape. The victims of the sex crimes, two girls who were 12 and 15 when the crimes were committed, were forced into Jeffs’ harem of polygamous wives at the Yearning for Zion Ranch in West Texas, a compound owned by the FLDS. Among other forms of sexual misconduct, these underage “spiritual wives” were coerced into participating in “heavenly comfort” training sessions in which they performed sexual acts with Jeffs to, as he claims, revive him spiritually and bring them closer to God. Due to the severity of his crimes, Jeffs will serve a lifetime sentence in prison and will not be eligible for parole until he is 100 years of age.

        The conviction and sentencing of Jeffs brings about the long-awaited end to a trial which began when he was extradited to Texas in December of 2010 in order to be tried for the aforementioned sex crimes which he committed. The two victims comprise a small fraction of Jeffs’ 24 underage wives, of a total of 78 polygamous spouses he is reported to have.

        This is not the first time Jeffs has appeared in front of a judge and jury for criminal misconduct. In May of 2006, Jeffs was placed on the FBI’s Ten Most Wanted List when he fled his home state of Utah to avoid going to court after being accused of arranging the unlawful marriages of underage girls. Jeffs was arrested by August of 2006 and, little more than a year later, was sentenced with two counts of rape as an accomplice. Between the time of Jeffs’ arrest and conviction, a Mohave County court found him guilty of two counts of sexual conduct with a minor and two counts of incest in a completely separate pair of crimes.

        The practice of polygamy has been cast into doubt by this trial

        Jeffs routinely justifies his sexual abuse of underage women in religious terms; a tape played during the prosecution catches him referring to the sex acts he performed with his victims as a gift from God and a method of purification.

        In addition to enforcing strict modes of antiquated dress and living, FLDS leaders like Jeffs have been know to redistribute wives amongst its male members and excommunicate men from the faith altogether to reduce competition for potential wives. The FLDS, which claims to have over 10,000 members and left the mainstream Mormon faith over 70 years ago, openly accepts polygamy and the marriage of underage girls; many of the young women Jeffs married were happily given away by their parents.

        Despite his sect’s split from mainstream Mormonism, Jeffs likens himself to Joseph Smith, the founder of the Latter Day Saint Movement and the Mormon faith. While conventional wisdom sees Jeffs’ actions and beliefs as reprehensible, it is not unlikely that Smith might not have felt the same were he alive today.

        Both men were advocates of “celestial” plural marriage, where men are required to take multiple wives in order to reach the highest levels of “exaltation”, or godhood, in heaven. Both men firmly believed that adherents of their faiths should have the ability to disregard laws which run contrary to their religious practices. Smith even preached the idea that “congress has no power to make a law that would abridge the rights of my religion,” a concept which both Smith and Jeffs used to justify the breaking of laws. Like Jeffs, Smith frequently had trouble with the law throughout his life. Among other things, Smith was tried for pretending to find lost treasures, marrying other men’s wives, and suppressing free speech.

        Joseph Smith, founder of the Mormon faith

        While many may believe that no modern, conventional religion incorporates beliefs or practices akin to the FLDS’ cult-like and law-breaking ones, the modern-day Mormon faith is the successor to a long lineage of a bizarre spirituality. Here are some of the founding principles of the Mormon church, as preached by Joseph Smith, which modern-day Latter Day Saints still believe in.

        Joseph Smith was visited as a teenager by God and Jesus. They told him that the Christianity of the day had been led astray by Satan and that Smith would one day found the “true church”.

        An angel by the name of Moroni visited Smith and told him of an ancient Hebrew history which lay buried near his home in New York. Through the guidance of Moroni, Smith was able to recover several golden tablets, on which this history was recorded, and translate them from the “reformed Egyptian” language which Smith claimed they were written in using specialized seeing stones called “Urim and Thummim”. These translations were formed into the Book of Mormon, which is considered to be scripture by Mormons.

        The Hebrews who left the golden tablets were led by God front the eastern end of the Mediterranean Sea to America in three groups between 2200 BC to 600 BC. Amongst these Hebrews were prophets of God and people who were inspired by Jesus Christ (even though he would not be born for another two thousand years).

        Smith claimed that American Indians were the descendants of non-believers who traveled with the God-following Hebrews to America and then wiped out them out through a long series of conflicts.

        Jesus visited the Americas during his short lifespan and converted its inhabitants, according to Smith.

        Smith received revelations from God throughout his life. These revelations were transcribed into a book called Doctrine and Covenants, which is considered to be scripture by Mormons.

        The only true Christian church is the Mormon church, as Smith was able to restore the “true church” through the revelations he received from God.

        The Universal Life Church Monastery has prepared this article to point out the dangers of religious fundamentalism, the bizarre nature of Smith’s teachings and to draw a connection between the man who started the Church of Latter Day Saints and a man who now claims to be his spiritual descendant. While Jeffs’ religious justification for the immoral treatment of women in the FLDS may seem reprehensible to most, over ten million Mormons throughout the world follow the teachings of Joseph Smith, a man who advocated similar practices and propagated unconventional – and sometimes questionable – Christian beliefs. If Smith was able to convince millions of people throughout the world to adhere to his peculiar belief system, could a man like Jeffs do the same in the future with his perverted take on Christianity (especially given the similarity between the LDS and FLDS)? Could a cult-like organization like the FLDS one day evolve into the next home-grown American religion?

        While Mormons claim Joseph Smith died as a martyr for his beliefs in a jail in Carthage, Illinois, there is significant historical evidence that Smith was killed in a gun battle with a mob he had incited by urging the destruction of a newspaper which published unflattering statements about him. If it were given the opportunity, the ULC would urge Jeffs to decide whether or not Smith was wrongfully assassinated as a true man of God or if, as a self-styled prophet who believed he was not beholden to the laws of the land, Smith was an unfortunate victim to animosity he created.

        Note: this piece was not meant to bad-mouth Mormons or the Mormon faith… just the crazy ones.

          The Universal Life Church Monastery supports the gay community

          Friday, July 1st, 2011

          “We are all children of the same universe.”

          Equal marriage rights in the eyes of state and federal law are not granted to a significant portion of America’s population. This denial of rights is no less than discrimination against a minority group. Gay discrimination is unabashedly promoted by social organizations, public figures, and even religious groups. The venerable Catholic Church has repeatedly demonstrated that it can be this kind of religious organization. It has repeatedly been one of marriage equality’s staunchest opponents by actively campaigning against it and labeling it “immoral” and an “ominous threat” to American society.

          The Universal Life Church Monastery is a religious organization that does not tolerate this kind of discrimination. It stands firm behind its closely-held belief that anyone and everyone should have the right to do anything they choose as long as it does not infringe on the rights of others. This stance manifests itself in the ULC Monastery’s life-long push toward complete marriage equality: loving same-sex couples must have the same matrimonial privileges as their opposite sex counterparts. The right to “civil unions” is not enough.

          The Universal Life Church Monastery refuses to take a passive approach with the institutionalized discrimination of gay Americans, nor is it content to make hollow claims about its support of marriage equality. The following are two ways in which the ULC Monastery is “putting its money where its mouth is” by helping America’s gay community.

          On June 17, 2009 a letter drafted by the ULC Monastery’s Presiding Chaplain G. Martin Freeman was sent to President Barack Obama. The letter shared Freeman’s frank opinion with President Obama that the topic of gay marriage is one of the most important issues of his presidency and encouraged him to continue supporting gays regardless of the stiff opposition facing him. President Obama responded to the ULC Monastery with a letter which affirmed that “every American deserves equal protection under [America’s] laws, and neither Federal nor state law should discriminate against any American”. He assured Freeman that his administration is “committed to addressing a full spectrum of issues relating to the LGBT community” and thanked him for his interest in gay rights.

          As a non-profit organization, the Universal Life Church Monastery has donated considerable sums of money to charitable causes like the Lambert House since it was founded in 2006. The most recent donation made by the ULC Monastery in support of gays came in the form of a sizable contribution to the effort to raise the Pride flag from Seattle’s Space Needle. Money from this donation will be distributed to the GSBA Scholarship Fund, Mary’s Place, It Gets Better, and Lambda Legal. It is the ULC Monastery’s hope that with its donation these organizations will increase the quality of life for marginalized gay youth and, in turn, bring up the gay community as a whole.

          Gay men and women of America: the Universal Life Church Monastery will fight – hard – to gain complete marriage equality for you. It has advocated on your behalf to the highest levels of the US government and has donated large sums of money for gay causes. The decision by the New York State Senate to legalize gay marriage gives the ULC Monastery a clear and defined objective: legalized gay marriage in all 50 states. The ULC Monastery vows to continue its efforts on your behalf until this admittedly lofty goal has been achieved.