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Musical Comedy Features ULC Wedding Vow Renewals

Friday, December 23rd, 2011

By now most of us are familiar with the many unconventional ways ULC ministers have re-interpreted the traditional wedding ceremony. Often, this involves some form of performance art, from stand-up comedy routines to rock concerts. Now, one minister ordained online in the ULC will be performing wedding vow renewals for audience members during a musical comedy on the often amusing trials of married life. It’s just another example of the creative and innovative approach ULC clergy members take to performing wedding ceremonies, wedding vow renewals, and other special occasions.

The wedding vow renewals will be held during a performance of the musical play Let’s Pretend We’re Married, created and performed by Philadelphia comedians Jennifer Childs and Tony Braithwaite, at Act II Playhouse in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. As hinted at in the title, the play will follow the domestic exploits of a number of famous married couples from film, television, and radio, including Edith and Archie Bunker, Lucy and Ricky Ricardo, Sonny and Cher, and Burns and Allen, all of whom will be played by Childs and Braithwaite themselves. Sally Henry of Broadway World calls the play a “delightful, musical comedy celebration of the world’s greatest, and most complicated institution”.

Braithwaite, who decided to become ordained online in the ULC ministry, will be performing the wedding vow renewals, whilst Childs will be the flower-girl (albeit a grown-up version). Adding to the unconventionality of the occasion, the comedy duo will be offering different themes for each couple’s ceremony: a Las Vegas theme, a Hawaiian theme, and a traditional theme for those who wish to play it safe and stay “classic”. And apparently every couple is welcome. Braithwaite and Childs will also be offering wedding vow renewals to same-sex couples, as Henry notes: “All married couples are welcome (including visitors from New York, Massachusetts, Vermont, Connecticut, New Hampshire and Iowa!)”.

It’s quite an unusual combination, to be sure. Fans of both musical theatre, situation comedies, and alternative wedding and wedding vow renewal ceremonies should have plenty to look forward to. According to Henry, the score for the play will include selections from George and Ira Gershwin, Irving Berlin, Stephen Sondheim, and Tom Lehrer. So, not only will audience members have the chance to watch couples renew their vows of love and commitment to one another with the help of a ULC wedding officiant, but they will have the opportunity to revel in the sweeping soundscapes of classic musical scores, with each ceremony set to a different theme: gambling “glitz”, tropical “paradise”, or good, old-fashioned, whitebread traditional. Certainly not a performance to write off as boring, from whatever angle you look at it.

As Braithwaite and Childs show, alternative ceremony ideas aren’t limited to just weddings, but apply to wedding vow renewal and commitment ceremonies too. After all, to create truly lasting memories, sometimes it is necessary to buck the trend and do something a little bit off-the-wall. Perhaps we can apply the same principle to performing funerals, performing baptisms, or performing other sacerdotal rites. Of course, the trick is how to strike a balance between spontaneity and reverence. Of course, all that’s required is to get ordained online and do a little digging around about the do’s and don’ts of performing ceremonies as a minister in an online church. (But that’s what we’re here for.)

Tickets to Let’s Pretend We’re Married can be purchased by visiting http://www.act2.org, or by calling the Act II Box Office at 1 (215) 654-0200.

In other musical entertainment news, three time Tony award-winning music theatre legend Carol Channing gave a very warm and charming video message at Broadway Sings for Pride: the Winter Holiday Concert. The event is an organized effort by music theatre artists to show support for the LGBT community through the performing arts. As anybody who watches the video can tell, Channing’s support for the community is evident in her heartfelt message of love, solidarity, and inclusion, a message which nicely echoes the Universal Life Church Monastery‘s own motto, which is that, male or female, black or white, gay or straight, young or old, we are all children of the same universe.

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Broadway World: Carol Channing on Broadway Sings for Pride

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    Turning the Traditional Wedding on Its Head

    Tuesday, October 25th, 2011

    For many brides-and-grooms-to-be, the image of a young woman in a fluffy white dress being led by her father down the aisle to say “I do” to a stern man in a sober black suit has grown stale, and a trifle generic. Nowadays, more people want to have an alternative wedding ceremony which reflect their unique tastes as a couple, and sometimes this means reinventing age-old traditions and, quite literally, throwing a little dirt on things. Below are a few ideas that are catching the wedding industry by storm might inspire a more creative and personalized wedding for the reader.

    A lot of trends have focussed on re-defining what it means to be a bride or groom, and one of these is the “little black bridesmaid’s dress”, something even a lot of ULC wedding officiants haven’t seen at the altar yet. Traditionally, as we all know, black has been reserved for the groom and his men while the bride has donned and her bridesmaids, a vibrant blue, magenta, purple, or other similar color. But never black. Nowadays, though, bridesmaids and even brides themselves are wearing black because they like it, and it fits with the sartorial concept they had in mind (i.e. “Maybe I want my bridesmaids in black silk to resemble the night sky”, or something similarly inspired). For modern couples, white is no longer a symbol of purity, and black opens up countless creative opportunities.

    But the change in symbolism goes a little deeper than wearing black instead of white, and sex roles based on specious notions about intrinsic biological differences are beginning to crumble with the emergence of more egalitarian wedding and engagement trends like the “man-gagement” ring. Historically engagement rings symbolized a woman’s bondage to a man, and while engagement rings no longer bear this connotation, it is a wonder why a symbol of engagement should grace the woman’s finger, but not the man’s. After all, they’re both getting engaged, right? In response to consumers questioning this odd double standard, retailers are now selling engagement rings, albeit usually less ornate than the typical engagement ring, for grooms. Finally, we have arrived at the point where both women and men feel obliged to signal their commitment to another person.

    Things like rings and dresses are just objects, though, and the wedding ritual itself is undergoing a transformation too. Fewer brides are comfortable with the idea of walking down the aisle clinging to their fathers’ arms as if they are property being given away to the men who, in real life, they’re marrying out of love and mutual respect. For this reason, more brides and grooms are choosing to walk down the aisle together. (As children, some us might have assumed that this is the way it had always been done, only to be surprised by the revelation that the groom had traditionally received the bride from her father.) As Lori Stephenson, co-founder of the wedding planning and design firm Lola Event Productions, tells Joe Mont of The Street, “They are coming together to the altar as equals and there is none of this old-fashioned idea of leaving your family”. In addition, more women are proposing to their fiances, and more grooms have groomswomen while more brides have bridesmen. As marriage evolves into an equal economic partnership between two stable individuals, and as the larger society echoes this egalitarianism, the wedding ceremony is increasingly being re-conceived to reflect this social development.

    These are all somewhat solemn and philosophical considerations, but the modern wedding ceremony can be fun and quirky, too, reflecting the eccentricities of bride and groom, which is why photography shoots–those precious moments captured in time–are taking on a new twist, too. The pressure placed on brides to “play the part” and act like flawless beauty queens permanently embalmed in wedding photograph albums for decades to come can be truly nerve-wracking. As a way of alleviating some of this stress, and to create memories which reflect their off-the-wall side, brides are creating the perfect antithesis to the typical prim, proper, composed wedding photo shoot by deliberately . In some photo shoots, brides are dumping chocolate syrup on themselves, rolling around in the dirt, or running down the street in the rain–all in that expensive white, fluffy gown. (Usually the dresses go to the dry-cleaners afterward.) With the pressure to perform the part of the white-clad princess finally past her, the bride can now let loose and make a statement about who she really is (and still keep that heirloom dress, too).

    And, of course, it has to be mentioned that more people are choosing get ordained online so that they can marry their loved ones. More and more, however, couples are double-checking with their local clerk to confirm the legal status of their wedding officiant and have low-key weddings ahead of time to avoid any surprises later on. It is a smart decision to make, but it’s also a relief to know that wedding performed by ULC ministers are legal in always every jurisdiction in the U.S.

    These ideas aren’t for everyone–some people will still want to retain the more traditional elements of the wedding ceremony–but such quirky new customs wouldn’t be catching on like wildfire if there weren’t a substantial number of people who wanted to try them out. People are waiting until they’re older to marry, women no longer belong to men, marriage requires less approval from society to be considered valid, and when people do marry they tend to do so after much waiting and deliberation, making for a big, painstakingly planned out affair. Consequently, marriage requires a little tweaking for the modern couple, and maybe a way for stressed-out brides to let off some steam. The Universal Life Church Monastery thinks it’s a good thing that we’re taking a critical look at what the wedding ceremony means for us today and redefining it, without any lingering sense of shame, to suit our modern-day needs and desires.

    As a minister ordained online, or as an individual who recently married or hopes to do so in future, what do you think about the changing face of this cherished tradition? Do you like the creative, sometimes odd, ways in which weddings are being reinvented to reflect personal tastes and changing social attitudes?

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    Business Insider

      Sex, Race, and the Biology Excuse

      Thursday, October 20th, 2011

      Inside the Brain
      Digging Up Dinosaurs
      Have you ever heard anyone exclaim, “It’s biology!” when confronted with the problem of male promiscuity, or the disproportionately high number of black people in American prisons? Perhaps their wording was “It’s genetic!” Either way, it shows just how convenient it is to attribute social inequalities to biologically hard-wired differences. As the figurehead of this trend, the emerging New Traditionalist movement has been pining for a return to a bygone era characterized by old-fashioned racial and sexual roles, but a new host of critics are raising their voices in dissent, pointing out the danger of this deceptively appealing retrogressiveness. And Universal Life Church ministers have a vested interest in this debate.

      “It Must Be Because They’re Black!”

      Hard-wired biological differences have been used to excuse racial inequalities in some of the most disturbing and questionable ways. As Lisa C. Ilkemoto of Ms Magazine explains, U.S. president Bill Clinton, along with the two leaders of the effort to map the human genome, announced in 2000 that racialization was all but dead. Biologist Craig Venter had proclaimed that “race has no genetic or scientific basis”, she notes, and this opinion was widely accepted in the scientific community.

      Since then, however, efforts have been made by powerful institutions to re-introduce race as an explanation for human social inequalities. In her book Fatal Invention: How Science, Politics, and Big Business Re-Create Race in the Twenty-First Century, social critic Dorothy Roberts examines and attempts to discredit this trend. She points out how scientists, governments, and big business are using recent findings in genetics to render racial differentiation “neutral” and “factual”, and to justify racially-based explanations of health inequities such as the lower breast cancer rate but higher mortality rate among black American women.

      Roberts also critiques how the commerce and justice systems use “genetic race” to justify bias in government as well as in personalized medicine–to make a profit. The commercialization of race-based drug sales, Ilkemoto paraphrases her as saying, “may impose a norm of genetic self-regulation that will fall most negatively on those deemed the source of genetic risk”, and these will too often be women of color. The genetic race hypothesis is also being employed in the U.S. government’s rapidly-growing DNA database. Roberts also notes how blacks represent a disproportionately large sample of offenders in the DNA databases due to racial profiling, racism in prosecutions and convictions, and assumptions about biologically hard-wired race differences which stem from a renewed interest in pseudoscientific, race-based explanations for violent tendencies.
      A struggle for power
      Responding to this glut of seemingly uncontroversial, benevolent attention to race, Roberts critiques the motives driving supporters of racial science. In particular, she points out the ideological motives behind the effort to preserve genetically race-based explanations for social inequity:

      What links racial science from one generation to the next is the quest to update the theories and methods for dividing human beings into a handful of groups to provide a biological explanation for their differences—from health outcomes to intelligence to incarceration rates.

      In other words, Roberts argues, racial science becomes a meme which keeps humans neatly classified and reinforces biological explanations for social inequity. This is critical in the effort to pawn off violence, disease, and traits generally regarded as inferior on less privileged groups, without having to think critically about how our minds and society influence this process. Every ULC wedding officiant and nondenominational priest should treat this pseudoscientific trend with suspicion.

      “Men Are Like This, and Women Are Like That”

      But the biology excuse does not end with race–it is also used to excuse sexual inequity. Consider the new gender-education movement, which is founded on the premise that boys and girls should be educated separately because they possess immutable biological sex differences. This hypothesis, which is supported by family physician and psychologist Leonard Sax and author and consultant Michael Gurian, posits that boys should trained to be leaders and competitors because they are naturally more aggressive and disciplinarian, and that girls should be trained to be followers and cooperators because they are naturally more passive and nurturing.

      But Caryl Rivers and Rosalind C. Barnett, in their book The Truth about Boys and Girls: Challenging Toxic Stereotypes about Our Children, challenge these assumptions and attempt to refute the pseudoscientific claims made by people like Sax and Gurian. One case in point, argue Rivers and Barnett, is the lack of empirical evidence showing that girls should be taught in whispers because their hearing is so much more acute than that of boys, and the assumption that boys need to expend more energy than girls is also refuted by evidence showing that there is a positive correlation between exercise and learning in both boys and girls. As J Goodrich of Ms explains, chapter after chapter Rivers and Barnett refute the evidence used to support the Sax-Gurian principle that boys are dominators, and girls, doormats. This is important work, because it reminds us as ULC ministers how harmful, oppressive, and tyrannical sex roles based on bad science can be.

      River and Barnett are not the only voices speaking out against pseudoscientific biological excuses for sex discrimination. Another prominent critic of New Traditionalism is psychologist Cordelia Fine, a senior research associate at the Centre for Agency, Velues and Ethics at Macquarie University and an Honorary Research Fellow at the University of Melbourne’s Department of Psychology. In her book Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society, and Neurosexism Create Difference, Fine critiques the commonly-held belief that men are hard-wired to systematize, and women, to empathize, is damaging to ourselves and society. She shows how our minds feed into, interact with, and influence observable sex differences, which in turn reinforce our assumptions in a vicious cycle. At one point she critiques Dr John Gray (author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus) for excusing the greater domestic workload of women by suggesting women need to do more housework because it produces the oxytocin which facilitates social bonds. She points out how Gray’s hypothesis is not empirically tested and that there are more satisfying sociological explanations for this double standard.

      In addition to providing sociological and psychological insight, Fine combs through the neuroscientific studies justifying sex discrimination and debunks them, pointing out their methodological flaws and misguided interpretations of the data. For example, she points out, even in species in which adult males do not normally care for the young, such as rats, the males consistently show an uncanny knack for nurturing the young when females are absent, proving that nurturing abilities are not hard-wired and suggesting that if adult male rats can do it, well, so can adult male humans. Breaking down such paradigms is partly what people get ordained online to do. It is exactly this kind of nuanced, sophisticated, uncompromising scrutiny of simplistic, convenient, reductive belief systems that we should be taking more seriously.

      Challenging beliefsChallenging Beliefs

      We can basically see how powerful social institutions and systems perpetuate myths about hard-wired biological differences in order to justify racial and sexual inequity, using misleading or poorly-supported scientific studies as a crutch. Why? Because it benefits privileged groups like white, males, and heterosexuals while treating everyone else like chopped liver. It’s no longer clever to spout the platitude “It’s biology!” and expect people to take these words for granted. The consequences are foreboding: a return to the nineteenth-century, when blacks were enslaved because they were seen as intrinsically subhuman, or even further back to the prehistoric savanna when males hunted and waged war while females cooked the meat and popped out babies. Conceivably, biological determinism might also provide a justification for eugenics and racial cleansing.

      Every period of history has its own pretty, pseudoscientific ideas about race and sex differences, which attract non-critical thinkers like a shiny metallic bauble, and only when the next generation arrives do we observe how preposterously subjective and sentimental our forbears’ “evidence” really was. Perhaps we perpetuate these myths because they make us feel safe and secure, and because they’re easy and convenient to believe in, but this doesn’t mean that they are good for us. The Universal Life Church Monastery takes a cautious, skeptical position on biological determinism, always emphasizing that we should challenge long-held, comforting beliefs, especially those which divide rather than unite us, for, after all, we are all children of the same universe.

      Sources:

      Barnett, Rosalind C. and Caryl Rivers. The Truth about Boys and Girls: Challenging Toxic Stereotypes about Our Children. New York: Columbia University Press, 2011. Print.

      Fine, Cordelia. Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society, and Neurosexism Create Difference. New York: Norton, 2010. Print.

      Ms Magazine: “Rethinking Venus and Mars”

      Ms Magazine: “Selling Race?”

      Roberts, Dorothy. Fatal Intervention: How Science, Politics, and Big Business Re-create Race in

      the Twenty-First Century. New York: The New Press, 2011. Print.

        ‘Til Death Do Us Part

        Monday, October 17th, 2011

        Married Couple“Until death do us part,” may no longer apply if a new proposal in Mexico City is adopted. Legislators are considering assigning an expiration date to all nuptials with a minimum period of two years per couple. Should you decide not to renew, your marriage just dissolves.

        About half of marriages in Mexico City end in divorce. Compare that to a divorce rate of about 46% in the United States and we see the problem is not limited geopolitically. Regardless, divorces can be messy, and legislators are hoping to both curb the rates and encourage couples to consider all possibilities. In the states, we are familiar with the idea of a prenuptial agreement where couples sit down and discuss terms of both their union and potential separation before their wedding date, often with their minister and lawyer. This is would be rather similar if not for the fundamental difference of an expectation to part ways in the future. In both the new city proposal and the typical American “prenup”, provisions are included for how children and property could be handled in the event of a divorce, or in this case, a non-renewal. “The proposal is, when the two-year period is up, if the relationship is not stable or harmonious, the contract simply ends,” said Leonel Luna, the Mexico City assemblyman who co-authored the bill.

        Because divorce is a terrible experience, many believe assuming it as the new normal is a step in the wrong direction. People often operate on ideals, and some believe we ought to strive for life-long partnerships. This has the potential to not only create stability, but hopefully slows down the courting process as couples weigh the gravity of the life-changing plunge they are about to take.

        That’s simply not what is happening, and the divorce rates make that pretty clear. It’s a nice thing to aim for and certainly a veryWedding Ringsromantic notion, but when the rubber meets the road it doesn’t work out almost half of the time. There is no arguing with the statistics but you must wonder if building in the expectation of separation really does anything to address the issue, or merely changes the way we think about it in a non-meaningful way.

        The proposed law is gaining support and expected to be voted on by the end of the year. This is all occurring on the heels of the legalization of gay marriage, much to the displeasure of the Catholic Church. While accusations have flown that same-sex marriages will somehow destroy traditional marriages, no such banter has arisen against this legislation which actually does end marriages before the traditional clause, fulfilled only in death.

        To examine another aspect to the situation, compare the treatment of divorced women to men in an orthodox, Catholic culture such as Mexico City. Often men are allowed to move forward with their lives after ending a marriage while women can be burdened with more societally induced shame, possibly barring them from finding another spouse. It will be interesting to see if the culture changes should this legislation pass the vote, or if the same norms will be modified to apply to the different connotation of “non-renewed marriage” as opposed to divorce.

        The subject of marriage is no stranger to the ULC Monastery and its ministers. Many members were called into the ministry to officiate a wedding using the free online ordination process, including some members of the Seattle headquarters staff in New York this summer. Despite the atmosphere where established institutions meet modern application, the Monastery has never even considered the concept of changing marriage itself. It presents a whole new set of questions and I know many ministers have something to say on the matter. Join our conversation and tell us your thoughts on the proposed law in Mexico City. Would you consider your duties as a wedding officiant differently if marriages expired, or perform ceremonies in a different way? It can tarnish the meaningfulness of a commitment as well as update the arrangement pragmatically for our modern age.

          Catholics Challenge Vatican Ban on Women Priests

          Wednesday, August 3rd, 2011

          For centuries, the Roman Catholic Church has reserved the priesthood for celibate heterosexual males (ironic, perhaps, since they are celibate anyway), but now hundreds of Roman Catholic priests from around the globe are challenging the ban on ordaining women and married men as priests. Although some religious scholars question their efficacy, especially given the rigid, entrenched hierarchy of the Church, such demonstrations are a sign that old attitudes are beginning to crumble. And not without solid reason, either. Looking closely at the rationale behind the Church’s position, we will observe that it rests entirely on a logical fallacy.

          The challenges to Church law span countries and continents. In June, three hundred Austrian deacons and priests showed their support for ordaining women and married men by issuing a “Call to Disobedience”. During every Mass, the priests and deacons recited a public prayer calling for church reform. Next-door, in Germany, underground women priests (known collectively as “Womenpriests”) have been ordaining other women as priests in defiance of Roman Catholic orthodoxy since 2002. Meanwhile, across the Atlantic in the United States, similar demonstrations have taken place. Roy Bourgeois, a member of the Maryknoll religious order, faces excommunication for delivering the homily in a ceremony in which a woman, Janice Sevre-Duszynskaas, was allegedly ordained. Bourgeois received a letter from the Vatican asking him to recant his position on the ordination of women or face excommunication. He has refused to recant, but has not yet been excommunicated, and 157 fellow clerics have signed a letter in support of Bourgeois and his actions. Incidentally, Sevre-Duszynskaas is also a member of Womenpriests—she had been fighting to be ordained since 1998. Over the years, she has gained notoriety for disrupting services and conferences calling on the ordination of women.

          The Church’s position on women priests was summarized in an apostolic missive, Ordinatio Sacerdotalis, issued by Pope John Paul II in 1994. In that letter, the pope declared that the Church “has no authority whatsoever” to ordain women as priests. The argument given by the Church for its position is that all of the apostles of Jesus Christ were men, and that the all-male priesthood cannot be changed because it has always been the practice. In other words, according to the Church, if the priesthood was originally male-only, and if it has always been male since the founding of the Church, it should remain male-only.

          The Church’s argument is invalid, however, because it is founded on a logical fallacy known as argumentum ad antiquitatem, or “appeal to tradition”. According to this argument, a thing is good or correct simply because it is traditional—that is, the argument states “this is right because we have always done it this way”. Basically, people making this argument assume two things: 1) that a certain way of thinking is the correct way just because it was the original way, and 2) that past justifications for the practice apply to the present. These assumptions are faulty for two reasons: a thing was not necessarily good or correct when it was introduced, and past justifications for a practice do not necessarily apply to present-day situations.

          We can see John Paul making this same fallacious argument in his epistle defending the Holy See’s opposition to the ordination of women.

          In the letter, John Paul argues that denying priesthood to women is valid because this was the original practice of the Universal Church of Rome. This claim is unsound, because the original practice might have been based on incorrect grounds—it is not correct simply because it is the original way. If we accept that women possess as much intelligence, wisdom, spiritual insight, and leadership skill as men do, and consequently women and men make equally effective priests, the original practice of male-only ordination is wrong. Besides, some religious and biblical scholars have suggested that Mary Magdalene—not Peter—was Jesus’s favorite apostle, according to the Gnostic Gospel of Mary (which the Church deems apocryphal), so the claim that all of Jesus’s apostles were male might be false too.

          Additionally, even if there was good reason to bar women from ordination in the past, the same reasons do not necessarily apply today. Today, people have hugely different demands placed on them—in order to sustain and participate in the new economy, more men need to take up traditionally female roles (such as nursing). Meanwhile, the priesthood is seeing a dwindling number of competent priests, and women are needed to fill the traditionally male roles and keep the priesthood afloat. But there is little reason to think that women should have been barred from ordination in the first place, being equal to men in their ability to serve as spiritual leaders.

          So, no, the fact that male-only ordination has always been the practice of the Church does not mean that it should be.

          It will be interesting to watch the events in Austria, Germany, and the United States and see where they lead. The rebellious actions of people like Bourgeois and the members of Womenpriests may barely make a dent in the ecclesiastical hegemony of the Church, but the numbers involved in the demonstrations are growing and seem to be gaining the force of a tsunami. Who knows whether it will come crashing down on the centuries-old institutionalized patriarchy stagnating within the world’s largest Christian denomination? Hopefully, as the number of rebel Catholics increases, others will be inclined to join them in the effort to institute church reform. The Universal Life Church Monastery supports these efforts, believing that men and women have equal access to divine wisdom and can learn from one another’s teaching and guidance in an environment of mutual respect and cooperation.

          Give us your thoughts. After all of these centuries, is it time for the Roman Catholic Church to allow the ordination of women as priests?

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          Ms Magazine

          The New York Times