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ULC Minister’s Research Exposes Posthumous Romney Weddings

Wednesday, February 22nd, 2012

U.S. presidential hopeful Mitt Romney may be feeling a slight headache in the coming months as the presidential campaign gets into full swing. Universal Life Church minister Helen Radkey, who has spent the last several decades fighting posthumous baptisms by the Church of Latter-Day Saints, has unearthed documents indicating that some of Romney’s ancestors were married to multiple spouses in posthumous wedding ceremonies. Whatever your thoughts as a ULC minister on the teachings and practices of Mormonism, Radkey’s findings reveal a collection of mysterious traditions which, in some cases, deserve closer examination for the way in which they may shape the lives of people outside the church.

A seasoned researcher, Radkey started pursuing the topic of posthumous polygamous weddings just recently. She has already spent years investigating posthumous baptisms by the Mormon Church, especially those performed for victims of the Holocaust. It isn’t always clear what drives the ex-Mormon from Hobart, Tasmania to champion this cause, but perhaps it is because posthumous baptisms insult the memory of Holocaust victims by suggesting they still need saving. However, she began to shift her focus from baptisms to weddings when she came across information on Romney’s genealogy. Intrigued by what she found, she combed through private databases at the church’s own Family History Library and produced documents which suggest that a number of Romney’s ancestors have been posthumously wedded by the church to multiple spouses.

Reflecting on her discovery, Radkey began questioning Romney’s statements about polygamy. Like most modern-day, mainstream Mormons, he has openly denounced the practice as immoral and corrupt. In fact, the former senator has reportedly called it “bizarre” and “awful”, according to Jason Horowitz of The Washington Post. And church spokesman Michael Purdy maintains that the church does not officiate wedding ceremonies for the deceased, Horowitz reports. In her interview with Horowitz, Radkey challenged Romney and the church’s attempt to disavow any connection with the mores of their ancestors: “How dare [Romney] say that polygamy was horrible when it was what his ancestors believed”, she said, adding that “I believe you should honor your bloodline. I have convicts in my bloodline. I don’t reject them”. She also suggests that the church might be rejecting polygamy for the living while secretly sanctioning it for the dead. The implication is that the church has a double-standard for the living and the dead, and that Mormons like Romney should confess to the polygamous legacy of their church and stop trying to sweep it under the rug in an attempt to obfuscate outsiders. Her crusade is probably not without personal motivation, either: she was excommunicated from the church in 1979.

The practice of marrying dead people to multiple partners, and the attempt to dismiss or obscure its presence in Mormon history, are not the only things that get Radkey roiled up. As mentioned above, she has also paid close attention to the church’s posthumous baptisms. In fact, she has discovered that the church has posthumously baptized everybody from Joan of Arc, Anne Frank, and Nobel Peace Prize winner Elie Wiesel’s parents to Charlie Chaplin, Humphrey Bogart, Marilyn Monroe, and even Barack Obama’s mother. But the church isn’t supposed to be doing this apparently. As Horowitz reports, it has made an agreement with Jewish groups to desist from posthumously baptizing deceased Jews, presumably because the activity suggests that innocent victims of genocide need to be saved, which, understandably, would insult members of the community. Responding to the reports of continued baptisms, Wiesel himself made a public appeal to Romney requesting him to ask his church to stop the baptisms. All in a day’s work for the online ordained minister. If the veracity of Radkey’s claims can be confirmed, the implications are scandalous, to say the least. It means that the church has not only contradicted its official stance by secretly marrying dead Mormons to multiple partners, but also violated an agreement with the Jewish community to stop baptizing Holocaust victims like Frank and Wiesel’s parents out of respect for their memory and the feelings of their community. And it can all be traced back to the LDS church’s own archives thanks to the assiduous research efforts of Radkey.

What should we take from Radkey’s discoveries and how should this shape our view of the LDS church? Understandably, the belief that the living can marry the dead to people chosen by the living, and to multiple partners, seems a bit farfetched to many, and the belief that the living can baptize the dead to save them from damnation seems a bit brazen and insolent to many, too. Even a lot of people who get ordained online and become a minister to marry their friends and relatives find this peculiar. If we think about it, though, a lot of religions have strange beliefs. Christians believe that God became a human being to be sacrificed, propitiate himself, and thereby save humans from eternal torment, rising miraculously from the dead after this goal was accomplished. Meanwhile, some Roman Catholics believe in the doctrine of transubstantiation, which states that consecrated bread and wine literally become the flesh and blood of Jesus Christ, and some Jainists believe in a ritual called sallekhana, a form of self-starvation which is supposed to cleanse oneself of negativity and bad karma through complete non-violence and meditation. Religion in general is a quirky thing. So, while we should hold the Mormon church accountable for how it treats the memories of those it posthumously married and baptizes, we should also remember the very strange, funny, and questionable things other religions teach.

    Featured Minister – Mayor Oscar B. Goodman

    Friday, January 27th, 2012
    UNIVERSAL LIFE CHURCH ORDAINS OSCAR B. GOODMAN, FORMER LAS VEGAS MAYOR AND FORMER GO-TO DEFENSE ATTORNEY TO THE MOB
    Goodman to perform a mass wedding ceremony at The Mob Museum in Las Vegas on Valentine’s Day

    Mayor Oscar B. Goodman

    Former Las Vegas mayor and notorious lawyer for the old mob, Oscar B. Goodman has repented and seen the light! The spirit has compelled him to get ordained with the Monastery and begin his new heavenly career as a Universal Life Church wedding minister. His Honor will officiate his first wedding on St Valentine’s Day 2012 at the new Mob Museum, formerly the old  federal courthouse and U.S. Post Office in downtown Las Vegas, Nevada. It was there that mob lawyer Goodman made a name for himself representing such reputed mobsters and bad guys as; Meyer Lansky, Frank “Lefty” Rosenthal and Anthony Spilotro.  Today, Brother Goodman joins the ranks of celebrity ULC Ministers, including Conan O’Brien, Kathy Griffin, Jeff Probst, and Rob Dyrdek (who has just finished officiating his sister’s wedding on his upcoming Fantasy Factory MTV series).

    Seven couples will have a chance to have the new “Mob Minister” marry them inside of the old historic downtown courtroom.  The couples will be chosen on February 1 via a random drawing and promotion hosted by Vegas.com, The Mob Museum and the Las Vegas Convention and Visitors Authority.   For details and to enter the MARRIED AT THE MOB MUSEUM contest, visit www.vegas.com/weddings.

    Brother Goodman enjoyed an exciting career as a young public defense attorney who later rose to become Las Vegas’s most popular Mayor of all time, an office he held from 1999 to 2011.  In 2007, he was re-elected for a third term, winning 86% of all votes!   He is also the first Mayor in the country to be succeeded by his wife, Mayor Carolyn G. Goodman.  During his career, Br. Goodman also worked as a spokesperson for Bombay Sapphire Gin for which he was compensated $100,000 and donated entirely to charity.  He currently serves as chairman of the host committee for the Las Vegas Convention and Visitors Authority.

    Mayor Goodman is a key visionary of The Mob Museum and oversaw the purchase of the building many years ago for $1 from the federal government with the promise to preserve its historic nature.  The Mob Museum, the National Museum of Organized Crime and Law Enforcement, is a $42 million dollar project a decade in the making.  Recently named by Travel and Leisure as a “Las Vegas best new attraction”, The Mob museum was designed by the same team that created the International Spy Museum in Washington D.C.  It includes iconic one-of-a-kind artifacts and interactive, themed environments, and even a short film hosted by Hollywood producer Nicholas Pileggi (of the movie Casino fame).  By way of interest, Mayor Goodman appeared as himself in the 1995 Martin Scorsese film Casino.

    The interactive exhibits include getting a chance to use the same type of wire-tapping gear as the FBI to listen in on conversations and a chance to go up against the bad guys in a hands-on Tommy gun exhibit. It is purported to be “as close as you can get to the Mob without being asked to wear a wire.”  The exhibit includes an insider’s look into some of the Mob’s biggest players including Al Capone, Whitey Bulger, Bugsy Siegel, John Gotti and many more.  Rumor has it that Whitey Bulger is trying to attend the affair but the Boston authorities are turning a deaf ear to his pleas.

    To show the other end of the spectrum, in 1950 the former federal courthouse and U.S. Post Office was the site of one of 14 nationally televised Kefauver hearings to expose organized crime.  The hearings gained the highest ratings of any television show of their day. The nation was glued to its televisions as mobster after mobster took the Fifth Amendment, denying any association with the Las Vegas hotels they built and ran. The Mob Museum is also working with the FBI and many famous undercover agents who made a career of fighting the mob, including legendary agents Joe Pistone who infiltrated the Mob posing as a small time jewel thief, Donnie Brasco, Cuban-born Jack Garcia and others.

    As “Hizzoner” has become an ordained minister, the Universal Life Church Monastery prays everyone will come to understand – we are all children of the same universe – no greater than the trees and no lesser than the stars. We all have a right to be here.

    Contact the Monastery or follow us on Facebook and Twitter, video of the ceremony to follow.

      Conan O’Brien Ordained by Universal Life Church Monastery

      Friday, October 28th, 2011

      As New York Magazine‘s Vulture blog has just announced, Conan O’Brien, will be celebrating the one-year anniversary of his Late Night TBS talk show, by officiating the same-sex marriage of a longtime staffer.  We’re proud to confirm that Conan is one of the Universal Life Church Monastery’s most recent ordained ministers! Though the date of the wedding ceremony has yet to be released, Conan was ordained with Universal Life Church Monastery on October 21st and will likely be performing the marriage as part of the shows one week stint of episodes in New York City next week.

      The Monastery salutes Conan’s courage to perform a same-sex marriage and to set the example that we are all children of the same universe; gay, straight, black, white, brown, young and old.  The church invites all to become a minister of their own beliefs and speak truth to power during these critical times of change.

        Turning the Traditional Wedding on Its Head

        Tuesday, October 25th, 2011

        For many brides-and-grooms-to-be, the image of a young woman in a fluffy white dress being led by her father down the aisle to say “I do” to a stern man in a sober black suit has grown stale, and a trifle generic. Nowadays, more people want to have an alternative wedding ceremony which reflect their unique tastes as a couple, and sometimes this means reinventing age-old traditions and, quite literally, throwing a little dirt on things. Below are a few ideas that are catching the wedding industry by storm might inspire a more creative and personalized wedding for the reader.

        A lot of trends have focussed on re-defining what it means to be a bride or groom, and one of these is the “little black bridesmaid’s dress”, something even a lot of ULC wedding officiants haven’t seen at the altar yet. Traditionally, as we all know, black has been reserved for the groom and his men while the bride has donned and her bridesmaids, a vibrant blue, magenta, purple, or other similar color. But never black. Nowadays, though, bridesmaids and even brides themselves are wearing black because they like it, and it fits with the sartorial concept they had in mind (i.e. “Maybe I want my bridesmaids in black silk to resemble the night sky”, or something similarly inspired). For modern couples, white is no longer a symbol of purity, and black opens up countless creative opportunities.

        But the change in symbolism goes a little deeper than wearing black instead of white, and sex roles based on specious notions about intrinsic biological differences are beginning to crumble with the emergence of more egalitarian wedding and engagement trends like the “man-gagement” ring. Historically engagement rings symbolized a woman’s bondage to a man, and while engagement rings no longer bear this connotation, it is a wonder why a symbol of engagement should grace the woman’s finger, but not the man’s. After all, they’re both getting engaged, right? In response to consumers questioning this odd double standard, retailers are now selling engagement rings, albeit usually less ornate than the typical engagement ring, for grooms. Finally, we have arrived at the point where both women and men feel obliged to signal their commitment to another person.

        Things like rings and dresses are just objects, though, and the wedding ritual itself is undergoing a transformation too. Fewer brides are comfortable with the idea of walking down the aisle clinging to their fathers’ arms as if they are property being given away to the men who, in real life, they’re marrying out of love and mutual respect. For this reason, more brides and grooms are choosing to walk down the aisle together. (As children, some us might have assumed that this is the way it had always been done, only to be surprised by the revelation that the groom had traditionally received the bride from her father.) As Lori Stephenson, co-founder of the wedding planning and design firm Lola Event Productions, tells Joe Mont of The Street, “They are coming together to the altar as equals and there is none of this old-fashioned idea of leaving your family”. In addition, more women are proposing to their fiances, and more grooms have groomswomen while more brides have bridesmen. As marriage evolves into an equal economic partnership between two stable individuals, and as the larger society echoes this egalitarianism, the wedding ceremony is increasingly being re-conceived to reflect this social development.

        These are all somewhat solemn and philosophical considerations, but the modern wedding ceremony can be fun and quirky, too, reflecting the eccentricities of bride and groom, which is why photography shoots–those precious moments captured in time–are taking on a new twist, too. The pressure placed on brides to “play the part” and act like flawless beauty queens permanently embalmed in wedding photograph albums for decades to come can be truly nerve-wracking. As a way of alleviating some of this stress, and to create memories which reflect their off-the-wall side, brides are creating the perfect antithesis to the typical prim, proper, composed wedding photo shoot by deliberately . In some photo shoots, brides are dumping chocolate syrup on themselves, rolling around in the dirt, or running down the street in the rain–all in that expensive white, fluffy gown. (Usually the dresses go to the dry-cleaners afterward.) With the pressure to perform the part of the white-clad princess finally past her, the bride can now let loose and make a statement about who she really is (and still keep that heirloom dress, too).

        And, of course, it has to be mentioned that more people are choosing get ordained online so that they can marry their loved ones. More and more, however, couples are double-checking with their local clerk to confirm the legal status of their wedding officiant and have low-key weddings ahead of time to avoid any surprises later on. It is a smart decision to make, but it’s also a relief to know that wedding performed by ULC ministers are legal in always every jurisdiction in the U.S.

        These ideas aren’t for everyone–some people will still want to retain the more traditional elements of the wedding ceremony–but such quirky new customs wouldn’t be catching on like wildfire if there weren’t a substantial number of people who wanted to try them out. People are waiting until they’re older to marry, women no longer belong to men, marriage requires less approval from society to be considered valid, and when people do marry they tend to do so after much waiting and deliberation, making for a big, painstakingly planned out affair. Consequently, marriage requires a little tweaking for the modern couple, and maybe a way for stressed-out brides to let off some steam. The Universal Life Church Monastery thinks it’s a good thing that we’re taking a critical look at what the wedding ceremony means for us today and redefining it, without any lingering sense of shame, to suit our modern-day needs and desires.

        As a minister ordained online, or as an individual who recently married or hopes to do so in future, what do you think about the changing face of this cherished tradition? Do you like the creative, sometimes odd, ways in which weddings are being reinvented to reflect personal tastes and changing social attitudes?

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        Business Insider